We are on the cusp of the holiday season once again.  If you’ve been around a while like I have, time goes by faster and faster.  In the blink of an eye, we will be celebrating Thanksgiving.  How does Thanksgiving make you feel?  Are you Thankful?  Stressed?  Depressed?  Hopeful?   Happy?  Sad?  How do you want to feel?

Do you know, you can choose?  Life just doesn’t happen to you, you create it.  You’re probably saying, “what a bunch of bologna!” Or words to that effect.  Let’s take a little trip and see.  I dare you!



I used to believe my life was meant to be a struggle every minute. I lived my life that way.  Growing up I believed I wasn’t as worthy as my siblings.  My sister was attractive, charismatic, and athletic.  Everyone loved her.  My brother, well he was the son my parents had been waiting for.  He was also the “baby”.  You know where I’m going with this.

I was a clumsy, awkward, skinny kid.  Not remarkable in the least.  I found the only way to shine was to be “smart”.  Get good grades.  Get into a good college.  I worked hard.  Missed out on a lot of my youth to be special in that way.  What I got for my efforts wasn’t all bad.  I can retire from my chosen career in a year and a half.  The down side was that well into my 40s, I was still that clumsy awkward, though no longer skinny, kid inside.

I had a lot of people to blame.  It certainly couldn’t be my fault.  I’d never do that to myself.  Well, maybe, if I didn’t know better.

Do you or have you felt this way?  I believe everyone does to varying degrees.  The reason is that you are programmed that way.  PROGRAMMED!  Please don’t misunderstand.  I don’t believe there is a conspiracy to keep people down.  I believe we’ve learned from our families and social circles how to react to given situations.  To do what is acceptable.  Today it is the norm for people to be diagnosed with some sort of mental health issue.  I’m not saying genuine issues don’t exist, I’m only concerned that it’s become an epidemic because that is what is viewed as acceptable.

I challenge you to change.  Become a better, happier you!  Find your peace and joy along the way!  It’s really not hard.  All you need to do is stop the pattern of reaction to life events.  If I’m wrong, go back to the way you’ve always been.  If I’m right, you get the best of life.

For the next few weeks, when you wake up, find one thing you are truly grateful for.  Is it your spouse? Children? Pets? How about the warmth of your blankets?  The sun in the sky?  This doesn’t have to be complicated.  Just make sure you take time to be truly grateful.  Concentrate on the feeling you experience for whatever it is you are grateful for.  Now go on about your day.

Be conscious throughout the day of things that make you feel blessed and be thankful.  What about those times that are aggravating or frustrating?   Find some part of that event that you can be grateful for.  This is an important part to your transformation.

As an example, my husband and I were looking for land to build a new house on.  We made plenty of offers but we could not get an acceptance.  Although we didn’t know why at the time, it was a blessing.  We both know and accept that there is a power greater than us who was keeping us from getting any of these properties.  A few months later, our plans changed dramatically.  Had we bought any one of the properties, we would have complicated our future plans to move to a different state and settle in our “dream”.

Sometimes you have to stop and listen for what the universe is telling you.   If you have a plan for something and it seems like roadblocks keep getting in the way, don’t be discouraged.  Something better is coming!


You can go to any number of web sites and read about how stressful and depressing the holidays can be.  You will read words like depression, seasonal affective disorder, isolation, and stressed to name a few.  Again, you can choose if that will be you.  Don’t pressure yourself into making time for everything.  Prioritize what is important to you and get those taken care of.  The rest can either wait or be removed from the list.  The true meaning of the holiday season is family and joy.  It’s not what is put on the table or loaded under the tree.  YOU are loved for who you are inside.  If you look around yourself this holiday and see smiling happy faces of loved ones-that’s your perfect Holiday!

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